My friend is always complaining that she can’t have a proper conversation with her husband. Either their kids are present and they are interrupting them, or he is so busy working on his truck that he focuses more on the work than what she has to say.
I suggested her to make an effort to take him out of their routine. I even volunteered to babysit one night, so that they could go out for dinner or a movie. I explained to her that spending time together as a couple was vital for a healthy relationship.
As far as I know, both of them still have feelings for each other. It’s just that they have no time for themselves as a couple. Both of their jobs are very demanding, the kids also require lot of their attention. Not to mention that they are the main caregivers for their parents. Life can’t be easy when you have to handle so many things and there are only twenty four hours within a day.
During my last phone conversation with my friend, she confessed trying to discuss with her husband the possibility of hiring someone to take care of their parents. Or at least, of one of them. They already have a security camera installed. Now she was thinking to ask her mother to move in with them, and hire a nurse for her father in law. His condition was deteriorating fast and it was about time to recruit a professional for the job. According to her, the old man needed medical assistance she was not able to help him.
Since the only time she could catch her husband at home was when he was working in his garage, she brought her concerns to his attention, while he was installing new brakes on one of the trucks he owned. He did not refute her idea, nor verbally agreed to her proposal. All he said was that he wouldn’t mind hiring a nurse and then he turned back to his work.
My friend assumed that he was fine with everything, including having the mother in law moving in with them. A few moments later, she called her mother and she convinced her that it would be easier and better for everyone if she would come live with them. The following day she hired a team of movers and within four other days, grandma’ Jeanne was installed in the guests’ bedroom.
When her husband realized that his mother in law was there to stay, he was not too thrilled. His reaction caused a big argument between the two of them. Tonight, I am babysitting their kids, so that can go out and settle things.